In Search of a Book Title.

I am pleased to say there is movement at the station and my #KazBrooksBook project is coming along very nicely.  I am super excited!.

Kiddo at the Beach (a possible book cover photo) !!

Kiddo at the Beach (a possible book cover photo) !!

So the back story to this post is that I left Hubby to handle things on the home front last Wednesday night and I went out with friends and had adult conversations and laughed a lot.  The conversation turned to the topic of my writing and then to book titles.  So here are the ideas that were talked about at the table with my friends and now I am turning them over to you. Yes, you! I would love to know your thoughts and receive feedback, either by writing the number of the book title you like the best in the comments or feel free to play around with the title and the tag line and give me new ideas.  I am open to any and all suggestions!

Proposed Book Titles are:

#1 – At the Skatepark & On The Spectrum: Dropping In On Autism & Early Intervention.

#2- Engaging Kiddo: A Mother’s Story About Parenting her Young Son with Autism.

#3- As I Held My Breath: Parenting & Life on the Autism Spectrum.

#4- The Way We Roll: Parenting, Autism & Family Life.

#5- Snack-food, Sunshine and Skateparks: A True Story About Autism, Early Diagnosis & Early Intervention.

#6-Parenting a Young Child on the Autism Spectrum: Stories, Tips, Ideas & Inspiration from a Mother & Her Son.

thoughts, feedback…go! Muchas Gracias amigos!


Take Me To Church. 

In case you were wondering , yes I was taken to Church! 

I loved going to Church as a child, and I always assumed I would do as my parents had done for me. That I would take my children to Church. After my son was diagnosed with autism the simple exercise of going to Church became challenging. A lot more challenging. Especially in my son’s younger years. 

I spent some time recently with a wonderful lady who is passionate about disability and church inclusion. I learnt so much from listening to her share about the work she has been involved in at her church to achieve this.  I thought about my own experiences and came up with a few ideas on how churches and faith communities can excel at loving, accepting and embracing children and adults with disabilities and their families. Here goes…

1. Listen. Churches need to listen to the parents, the siblings and the person with the disability. Really listen. We all desire to be heard and understood. Validating the journey is so important. Disability does not last a week or a month.  For many people it will last a lifetime so listen and continue to listen. Keep an ongoing dialogue. Church leadership and/or appointed key Church volunteers need to make a time to meet with the person or family, and at a location and time most convenient to them. Start with asking the question: ‘how can we serve you better?’ Don’t assume. Don’t pass the buck. Communicate and Listen. 

2. After listening comes a decision to make a heart change. This starts with the Church leadership. Make the attitude adjustment. I mean really go there. People often support the idea of inclusion until they actually have to make a change, or they find themselves outside of their comfort zone. Accommodations may be needed for that family or that person. The temptation may be to only think about the costs. Or the inconvenience. Making the decision to have an attitude change will make the practicalities of true inclusion and real acceptance so much easier. 

3. The National Organization on Disability found that  85% of people surveyed (both with and without disabilities) state their religious beliefs as being important in their lives, but only 47% of people with a disability attend Church at least once a month. What can be done to remove the barriers that prevent church members with disabilities from attending? I would encourage Church leaders to meet with its members, do some research, brain storm, set goals and make a plan to remove any and all of these  barriers. Check out the website – it has links to a range of faiths and denominations and loads of great info too! 

4. As Hubby says to me: ‘it’s not ‘them’ and ‘that Church’, it’s ‘us’ and ‘our Church’. I know what it is to be in Church leadership and I know what it is to be a Church member. Church leadership absolutely has an important role to play in setting the tone for an inclusive and welcoming culture. However it has been everyday church members, those without a title, who have often made the most positive difference to our Sunday experience and to our overall sense of wellbeing and belonging in our faith community. If every church member can ask ‘how can I serve this family or this person with a disability better?’ …then love has legs. And that is truly a beautiful thing.

5. Parents and Carers can feel isolated. Caring for a person or a child with a disability can be tiring. Practical help is always a blessing. In the case of my son his disability is not physical and can therefore be ‘hidden’ or ‘invisible’. If the Church can show kindness in practical ways it can make a huge difference. Making and delivering a meal, free babysitting, a cup of coffee waiting at church free of change, carrying a mom’s bag into church, helping someone to their car, watching a child after church so mom and dad can fellowship. Showing kindness in small and practical ways can be incredibly meaningful. It certainly has meant a lot to me. 

6. Don’t say stupid things if you can possibly help it. Think before you speak. As the old adage goes: If you can’t think of anything nice to say…well… You know the rest. 

7.  Say things like ‘Thankyou for making the effort to come today’, ‘You are doing a great job raising your child’, and ‘We are so blessed to have you here today’. Address the person with the disability. As a parent I don’t want people’s pity and I also don’t want be the reason somebody else feels like their life is not that bad. I always want my faith community to love and value our Kiddo.

8. My child is going to grow into an adult- true story! I want him to know and be assured of his place and value in our faith community both now and in the future. Having some of the young and older men in our church reach out to greet and connect with my son means the world to me and Hubby. Ted and Craig are two men in my Church who talk to Kiddo every Sunday. It blesses my Mama heart every time and I believe Kiddo feels accepted because these men treat him with kindness, dignity and respect. Yeah it even makes me teary. These men are the real deal in my book. 

9. Having a Children’s Program that can cater for children with special needs. My friend shared with me how she trained volunteers to be ‘shadows’ for children with disabilities, only stepping in if needed. She organized for each child in the program to have their own basket made up with instructions for the volunteer and other supports like visuals, schedules, fidget toys, favorite toys and even light coverings for a child who had struggles in that area. I believe children with disabilities should be included in the regular program to the fullest extent possible. I do not believe the parents should have to miss Service on an ongoing basis to make this possible. Yeah- see Tip #2. 

10. Then Jesus said, ‘Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest’ [Matthew 11 v 28 NLT.] I don’t have a disability but I am sure it can cause one to feel weary. This promise from Christ Himself is one I would love to see fufilled for all people with a disability who come to Church. That they would experience it as a place of rest, acceptance, inclusion and love. Wouldn’t that be a wonderful thing! 

I would love to read about any ideas you have to add to the list. Or any experiences you want to share are always welcome ! 

Be Nice To The Autism

One of the current goals I am working on with my son is expanding his expressive language. It basically involves using a variety of different prompts to let him know he needs to give me more language.  It started with a verbal prompt, then just a gesture, we then faded the prompt to a facial expression that says ‘you need to expand on that sentence buddy!’ Yes, believe it or not, there is a face for that! Now it’s just ‘wait’ time. If I pause then he knows he needs to stretch out that sentence before I will respond.

It’s been going really well and it’s actually pretty adorable and thrilling to hear him expand on his thoughts out loud.

So the other day Kiddo and I went for a drive to run some errands and we were passing through some beautiful countryside, feeling happy and just enjoying the sunshine.  Kiddo was looking relaxed and staring out of the car window when he made this comment out of nowhere:

‘I’m nice.’

I immediately jumped in with an enthusiastic ‘Kiddo !! Your ARE nice!!!’

Kiddo then repeated himself very slowly: ‘Ummm.. I’m nice ….I’m nice … Ummm… ‘.  I knew immediately I had interrupted his train of thought. The wheels were still turning. He does this at times. Repeats something and I can tell he is still searching. Searching for the words, a way to construct the words into a sentence, and a way to match the thoughts in his head to the words that come out of his mouth. It’s labor intensive for him.

So I zipped my lip and waited.

Kiddo: ‘I’m nice to SOME people.’

A long pause from him then slowly… ‘But I am not nice to some other people.’ I waited again. I could just tell he wasn’t finished. Long pause from him again. He was looking out the window then he turned his head toward me and said ‘I need to be nice to the autism.’  My chest tightened up and I felt the tears sting my eyes.

Kiddo continued oblivious to me trying to keep it together next to him.

‘I need to be nice to my autism.’

Then he turned away and looked out the car window again… lost in his thoughts.   He was finished. The conversation was over.

I said quietly: ‘Yes buddy … I know… It’s so true …’

My boy has not talked too much about autism of late since we explained his diagnosis to him a few months ago. This talk in the car was an exception. It was just the tiniest of glimpses for me into my own child’s personal journey towards self acceptance. No mean feat given the many roadblocks he faces on a daily basis.

What a privilege it was that I got to be there, sitting beside him, the one to witness such a moment.

Be nice to the autism. My autism.

I hear you Kiddo. I hear you.

This is Autism

I have been on blogging break recently.  I gave birth to my adorable Baby Girl four months ago.  Then three months ago I moved with the family from Australia (back) to the USA.  Yep! Trust me…. it has been an adjustment.  We are still adjusting. One day at a time.   

Monday-November 11th 2013:

2:58am—Kiddo wakes up and calls out for me to lie next to him.  This has been a pattern for the past week or so.  Sleep is an ongoing struggle for my five year old (almost 6) Kiddo. I get up and go and lie next to him.  My back has been hurting since I gave birth to Baby Girl.  Plus Kiddo’s bed does not have a pillow-top mattress.  Pricing pillow top add-ons is on my ‘list of things to do’.  This  will allow me to lie next to my son in his bed without being in pain.  I am also aware that Hubby is bone-crunchingly tired and I want to try to let him sleep.

3:30am—Kiddo is still awake.  I give him some melatonin (or as Kiddo calls it ‘sleeping medicine’) to try and help him drop back to sleep. Baby Girl wakes up ready to feed.  This ends up taking a while and Kiddo starts calling out for Daddy this time to come and lie next to him.  Which Daddy does. Kiddo has been so anxious lately with all the changes that managing this anxiety has become a priority for us.

4:00am—I finish feeding Baby Girl and then struggle to get back to sleep.  I am worried about Kiddo and school.  The staff at his new school have been great, but Kiddo is pretty stressed out and his behaviour at school communicates this.  We are doing all we can to support him.  He is trying so hard.

5:05am—Kiddo finally falls back to sleep.  Daddy returns to his bed and falls asleep. I go back to sleep.

5:58am—Baby Girl wakes up for the day. She is all smiles! I get up with her and start our morning routine. Coffee is my friend.  Drive-through coffee is awesome too.


6:30am—I am on the couch with Baby Girl and the iPhone. I begin researching possible activities for Kiddo to do today.  I am thinking of a family outing into the city.  Always gotta have a plan in this house! A day with no plan is just not good for Kiddo. Or us. Period.  Then Kiddo wakes up and bursts into the lounge room with joy: ‘Hi Mum-It’s me! I am back!’ .  Gorgeous!

7:00am-Kiddo watches TV. When the show is finished he looks out the window, sees the sunshine and exclaims with total excitement: ‘What a day! I am happy today. I feel good.  Sunshine! What a day! No school today.’  I respond to his total enthusiasm with ‘That’s wonderful Kiddo. I am so glad you feel happy today. I feel worried when you are sad and upset.’ Kiddo: ‘I am sorry mummy. I will try again.’ Me: ‘That’s OK Kiddo.  I am proud of you. I know you are trying.’

the sun is shining

Some days lately he is not so happy. There have been many meltdowns.  This boy of mine really does try so hard to ‘manage’ and regulate himself, his emotions, his body and its need for movement and input. This ‘management’ of his body and emotions is not only internal but also external, including contending with noisy, busy, highly verbal environments, bright fluorescent lighting and the general chaos of life and all its demands.  It’s a full time challenge for him….and our family.

8:21—Kiddo sits down for breakfast and starts looking under his chair. Me: ‘What are you doing Kiddo?’ Kiddo: ‘I don’t have a seatbelt’. Me: That’s funny! You don’t need a seatbelt in the house, only in the car.’ I smile at our cute conversation.  These days there are so many cute conversations. I don’t take it for granted. Never ever.

I sit down with Baby Girl on my lap while Kiddo eats his cereal.  I show Kiddo my sore finger.  I seriously have no idea how I hurt it! I ask him what should I do to make my finger feel better. Kiddo: ‘Go and see a doctor.’ Me: ‘I think I might ice it and see if that helps take away the pain.’ Kiddo: ‘Give me a try..Give you a try...(I wait – I know he is searching for the correct word)…Give IT a try.’ (yep-he found the word he wanted.) Word retrieval. Another struggle for Kiddo. Now my finger is numbed with ice I am pain free.

9:08—Hubby is up now.  It’s Veterans Day in the USA and he is home from work. Kiddo says to us at the breakfast table: ‘I feel HAPPY!!’. Me: ‘Why are you happy?’ Kiddo: ‘Because I am happy.’ Me: ‘But why?’. Kiddo: ‘Happy for mum and dad!’ Me and Hubby: ‘Awwww! Thanks Kiddo!’ I see Kiddo looking at Baby Sister…I can see he is searching for his words again…he says slowly: ‘Glad. Glad for Baby Sister.’

baby sister

9:31–Kiddo bounds over to his new ‘Angry Birds’ card game and asks Dad to play with him.  He has just started to play card games and board games this year. He loves it. He loves numbers.  Anything math related-he is in! Bingo and CandyLand are another two favourites. I love playing these games with my son. I feed Kiddo his vitamins while he plays and hand Hubby his coffee.  I put Baby Girl to bed for her morning nap, pack a cold lunch for Kiddo, load Dad and Kiddo into the car for a trip to the Skate Park to ride their scooters, and I crawl into bed for a morning nap. By this time I am hurting. I need sleep.

12pm—Dad and Kiddo come home from the Skate Park.  Hubby is exhausted and crawls into bed for a nap.  I am up with Baby Girl and do some cleaning while Kiddo has downtime playing games on the Ipad.  They are not educational games. Purely downtime…for him and us.  


1pm—the Ipad dies. It wasn’t plugged into the wall properly.  I help co-regulate Kiddo who is very upset.  I wake up Hubby and we start getting ready to head out again.  All four of us this time.

2pm-4pm—We drive downtown to explore the city.  Kiddo loves it.  We drive around and find a park to visit.  I wait in the car with Baby Girl who is sleeping now and Hubby plays a high energy game of ‘chasey’ and ‘sharks’ with Kiddo and the other kids at the park.  Hubby is so animated I can hear him from down the street!


5pm—home. We are all tired now.  Kiddo is much less verbal/non-verbal later in the day.  Also he is not responding to anything verbal.  We switch to visual supports about now.  Also his movements are more unpredictable.  Everyone is feeling.. ratty… it’s a challenge to stay calm and its a race to the finishing line (bed time).  

We drop past the shops to grab dinner.  Kiddo plays games on Dad’s I-phone while we wait in the car.  A phone call comes through. Kiddo answers the call and says : ‘I don’t want you to call me. I am trying to do something.  I’ll call you later. Speak soon. Bye-Bye now.’   Too funny! I laugh out loud and congratulate Kiddo for doing an awesome job answering the phone.  He normally just hangs up on whoever calls him when he is playing his games on the Iphone.  He giggles at my laughter.  I cant wait to tell hubby the good news! This is progress is our house!

The ‘night-time routine’ begins: Bath—dinner—Lego—Angry Birds card game (it’s usually TV  but Kiddo is loving his new game so we switch it out)—melatonin—brush teeth—toilet—read book—bed.

7:30pm—Kiddo is upset and crying.  Hubby’s phone died while putting Kiddo to bed. Kiddo calms eventually and is asleep by 8pm. Baby Girl goes to bed at 8pm.

8:00pm–Hubby has a work meeting. I write this blog post.

11:00pm–Bed. Hubby and I talk about the possible 3am wakeup and make a plan for this.  Tomorrow is a school day so we know Kiddo will be feeling anxious.

11:30—Baby Girl wakes up. Time for a feed. Before I know it its midnight.  There are some common themes in our autism day-to-day. Sleep. Communication. Planning.

Please feel free to share the keywords/phrases that form a ‘theme’ in your household…

Autism Travel Tales…

This post is designed to link YOU to my very first guest post (!) on the fantastic blogsite “Autistic Globetrotting: Autism Travel Made Easy”  see:

…our families travel tales start off with a bit of inspiration from my dear husband who writes: 

Those lovely moments when I find myself in a jumbo jet 30,000 feet above the Pacific Ocean and my son decides he wants go ‘exploring’…

I have to say reminiscing over our ‘early’ travel experiences did make me giggle.  Wince a little.  But still giggle.

The understanding looks of passengers when the aisle in the plane becomes my child’s personal 100m sprint track…

Yep! Kiddo is a ball of energy.  Always was and still is.  In all honesty though sitting down for umpteen hours in a confined space is just plain tedious-for anyone.  Thankfully I have heaps more strategies in my ‘bag of tricks’ now!  I am also unbelievably proud of my son’s ever improving ability to recognize and regulate his body and his emotions.

I smile with the knowledge that in 12 hours from now, I will never have to (with any luck) see any of those people again!

The truth is my whole family loves to travel. So when we can-we will! We deal with the ‘issues’ as they come up.  We learn from our mistakes and put our focus on all the wonderful people we meet along the way who are inclusive, helpful, understanding and patient.

For the rest of the post go to this link is

Hope some of my travel tips are helpful next time you travel with your child/toddler. Enjoy!!

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Kiddo at the San Diego Zoo

The Sequel: just because it is, doesn’t mean it should be.

This is part of two of my previous blog post (see here for Part 1- ).  Just a quick review …in the disability system in Western Australia I have experienced many instances of ‘just because it is, doesn’t mean it should be.’ This is part two of my list of things I would like to see changed, improved or addressed:

11. Waiting lists. They are no good and yet they seem to be accepted by the ‘powers that be’ as a part of normal life. It’s not like people are waiting for a new part for their car or for a haircut. These are children and families who often have desperate needs. These are children who really need a developmental screening, an assessment, a diagnosis, and to receive treatment and therapy services. For a ‘system’ to make people wait any more than a month for any of these things is again, just no good. Infact maybe government could legislate that once a request for any of these services has been made, the ‘disability/medical/mental health care system’ has a reasonable time frame (I’d say 30 days) in which to provide them. Recruit and train the people, hire the staff, create a placement and behave in a way that upholds Australia as a humane country that has a heart. One mum put it this way: ‘when a child needs to be seen, they need to be seen that week, not in seven months’ time.’ Ain’t that the truth!

12. Dissemination of information. This is one mighty troublesome aspect of the system that actually motivated me to start blogging. I would often be scratching for a pen and paper in car parks and waiting rooms to pass on information to other mothers who had never heard of or been informed about electricity rebates, Health Care Cards, Carers payments, Medicare entitlements, Companion Cards and the list goes on. Every mother I spoke to was grateful for the information I shared with them. The fact that information is not clearly passed on to families highlights the disjointed and fragmented nature of the system, and the reality that often the left hand does not seem to know what the right hand is doing. Not only is information not being shared with families, but at times it seems that what is passed on is incorrect information. One obvious example of information that could be more adequately passed on to families would be the Carers Adjustment Payment available through Centrelink. Never heard of it? Read this blog post from “It’s The Little Things” to learn about it:

With time and age limits on certain services, funding and rebates, an adequate system of passing on information becomes even more critical. Once information is disseminated in a more streamlined, systematic and co-ordinated fashion to families then maybe we can move on to the paperwork issue…

13. The paperwork issue! The number of agencies I access to keep all the balls (and acronyms!) in the air at any one time amounts to a job in itself. There is DSC State funding, Federal Funding (FaHCSIA/Better Start), FLI (and other grant based) funding, Respite funding and services (HACC), Child Care (plus Child Australia and Communicare for an aide in the child care), Centrelink (HCC, Carers Allowance, Carers Payment etc), Medicare and Medicare Safety Nets, school , Private Health, private pay therapists and more. I am good at paperwork, but the sheer volume and amount of repetition required by (often exhausted) families of a child with a disability is enough to bury anyone. The system is fragmented, confusing, exhausting and often disempowering. Information, funding and paperwork could surely work (even ‘flow’) along a clearer, more streamlined, and co-ordinated system where agencies can actually ‘talk’ to each other and (with permission) share information. Case in point-my paperwork ‘bucket’!

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14. Individual Profiles: I raised this point in the last post about a lump sum FaHCSIA payment for autism early intervention…let me expand a little. Complex needs require thoughtful and individualised solutions. It’s about allocating funding appropriate to the level needed for best outcomes, not just a set allocation that is given to everyone who gets a certain diagnosis. Many disabilities run along a spectrum (not just autism), and often children have a different starting point. Also some can respond quickly to treatment and others move slower, and many times a child can have multiple conditions and that needs to be factored in. Some children can also respond better to different therapeutic approaches. It’s time for our system and the professionals in it to really take the time to look at the individual profile and needs of the child and plan and review accordingly. I would like to leave behind the rigid and inflexible ‘one size fits all’ approach currently used, in order for funding to thoughtfully reflect the level of intervention, treatment and services needed for best outcomes for that individual child.

15. The consult model of therapy. I am definitely no expert in service delivery models but I think it’s time to have a good hard look at the consult model of therapy used by many allied health professionals in our current system. I think the tough questions need to be asked: Who does the consult model really serve and who does it benefit? From what I have experienced there is often A LOT of driving to and from appointments. These appointments usually last no more than one hour, and there remains at the conclusion of each appointment a heavy work load and expectation on the parent to have to implement the strategies suggested and ‘make it all work’. Not only is it labour intensive, it can continue for years for the child and the parent, plus it’s a financial burden to the family when multiple specialists are needed, and the hourly rate is expensive. I would love to see a more a multidisciplinary model (with in home and/or centre based services) where the therapists can really implement more of the therapy work themselves. Having more adequately funded ‘one stop shops’ in a State that’s as big as this one would be beneficial not only to the children who thrive on routine, consistency and familiarity, and also in alleviating the workload on families. These ‘one stop shops’ could exists in a variety of formats, such as within the childcare system, as therapy centres or within the education system. So this leads to my next suggestion…

16. Education for 3 to 4 year olds. In WA part time Kindy starts for children at four years of age. With many children diagnosed with a disability under the age of four (including children with autism), there is a definitely a gap in the education market to cater for the learning needs of 3 to 4 year olds. I would love to see the school sectors (State, Catholic and Independent), the Disability Sector and the Universities come together on this and take a collaborative approach to providing early intervention school based services for this age group. Professional and quality early intervention is key to achieving best outcomes in the two settings children spend most of their time-home and school. A year in the life of a young child with special needs is a long time and starting an early intervention school based program that bit earlier could make a world of difference to their future.

Someone else thinking along similar lines (but using a child care model) is Stephen Breen who is the WA Primary School Principals’ Association President. He said in The West Australian newspaper on 11 Feb 2013 that he wanted to call on local, State and Federal governments to cut red tape and allow the Education Department to join private providers to develop child care centres on school sites. He was quoted as saying (and I have highlighted my favourite part!) “Primary school sites are the logical place to build a full wraparound centre that not only caters for child care but enables early intervention strategies to be developed at implemented at a local level. The present system is ‘hit and miss’ and lacks a whole of community coordination.”

17. Inclusion. It seems to be the favoured word on the street when it comes to education and the education system. It’s just I often find myself asking ‘what exactly do you mean by inclusion?’ When the child with the disability or learning difficulty is in a mainstream classroom they have to ‘manage’ being around thirty of so other children. I am all for inclusion but I also think it should mean more than ‘plonking’ a child with a disability in a mainstream class, hoping for compliance, and believing we are being wonderfully progressive by doing this.

The child may or may not have aide support, they also may or may not have a teacher or a aide who is educated about their particular needs. Sending out inclusion specialists from Head Office to train the staff can help, but for some children and the staff it may not go far enough. Real inclusion requires a whole school approach, a commitment from staff and other parents, ongoing and regular training and support. It could mean placing speech therapists and other specialised services in schools, it could mean having smaller class numbers in some mainstream classrooms. Inclusion is where reasonable accommodations are made, staff have the skills and ability to facilitate and scaffold meaningful interactions between the child and his/her peers, behavioural strategies are actually implemented, social skills are taught to ALL the children, and where the class as a whole can adapt to have the extra supports in place (visual, environmental, sensory etc).

18. Other schooling options. The flip side of the inclusion debate for schools relates to those families who decide that mainstream is not a suitable environment for their child. They may decide to home school or send their child to an Education Support School (all special needs children). These parents do not deserve to feel penalised or judged for this decision. Professionals must be able to honestly and openly advise parents of ALL the schooling options available to them and not ‘force’ mainstream, particularly if it will cause undue stress on the child and the family. It is a fine line for sure. No one wants to go back to the bad old days where inclusion was not an option, but in some cases mainstream (as it exists today) may just not be set up or resourced in a way that allows the child (or the family) to be happy and successful.

19. A generalist approach. Here’s a list of areas I have found to be relevant to autism and autism intervention: inclusive early intervention centres, day cares and programs, structured play dates, community outings, sensory integration, PECS, behavioural strategies, developmental approaches, feeding, sleeping, toileting, generalisation of skills, data collection, recording of information, goals setting, therapist accreditation, training and supervision. From my experience with autism it’s not about being a specialist in one thing or in one approach. Autism is pervasive (hence PDD) and the system needs to have people trained to be generalists who can work with and help children and families across a wide range of areas. Specialists can know a lot about their therapy approach, but when they put down other approaches that are not the ones they use and are not open to discussing other approaches with parents …that is just not cool.

20. Some Facebook research: this revealed a few more pressing issues for families. They included a desperate lack of therapy services in rural and remote areas, and even outer-lying metro areas. A lack of services during school holidays, the expense involved in getting an autism diagnosis (some families out of pocket thousands of dollars), the almost non-existent support available for children who have special needs but who did not meet the standards needed for an actual diagnosis, and also the high expense incurred by families in buying mobility equipment (wheelchairs, frames, vehicles, etc).

The final word came via FB from Samantha C (with some help from disability advocate Stella Young) who said: “ I want for people (with a disability) to be given what they need in order to be who they are. (I want) for the uber wastage of band aiding issues and overworked Carers to be abolished in favour of actually properly supporting people with a disability and their families. That can’t happen until there is a change in thinking and a shift in the power balance. We don’t need people to do things to us and for us, we need them to do it with us.”


Artwork by Kiddo!

Taking a Leap of Faith

This week I did something I don’t normally do.  I attended a community presentation/discussion forum about the Australian legislation relating to a National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS).  Basically this is about a nationalised system of funding to provide care, supports and services to people with disability across the country.  To date the disability ‘system’ in this nation is described by our own Prime Minister as ‘piecemeal, fragmented and underfunded.’  I believe a significant change is a good thing, and I share the PM’s view about the state of disability in this nation.   I did however need someone to unpack the fine print in the NDIS for me.

Well, attending the forum did this.  The presenters were from DDC and PWDWA (see links below for info on these organisations) and did a really good job at ‘unpacking’ and opening up key areas for discussion, as well as keeping the whole afternoon ‘moving’ along at a nice pace.  Key areas discussed included criteria for eligibility, early intervention, and the nature of the so-called ‘Agency’ appointed to oversee  what has been termed ‘care plans’ (basically what support, services and funding will be allocated for each person eligible) .  There was discussion about the principles relating to these ‘care plans’, whether the role of advocacy needed to be included in the legislation, and what constitutes ‘reasonable and necessary supports’ for people with disability.  See these links for an outline on the key parts of the legislation: and

From the comments and discussions it was evident where people’s passions and concerns lay…There were those with disabilities themselves, some had a special interest in advocating for adults with an intellectual disability, others wanted to advocate for the needs of their own children after they had passed away.  I (one of the younger ones in attendance!) wanted to know about early intervention, possible funding for those children ‘at risk’ of autism, and how the NDIS and the Education sector would interface.  On this point I got ‘fired up’ when outlining my concerns…don’t even get me started…it’s seriously like winding up a jack in the box!

The presenter did a good  job with all of us ‘fired up and vocal ones’ and I was told that in relation to Education and the NDIS the ‘interface’ was not clear…but she said she would follow it up and let me know on this point.

One small remark made by the presenter stuck with me more than any other…it was that ‘we are putting a lot of faith in this legislation.’

Then I had a flashback to my days as an undergraduate studying politics at University.  The Founding Fathers of the Australian Constitution intended for that document to reflect their desire to keep the power with the States and keep a check on having a powerful centralised government.  Would those men ever be shocked now at how the Australian Constitution has been interpreted by the High Court over the past two centuries.  This, along with a number of other factors, has seen the power shift over time from the states to what is now a powerful centralised federal government.

I wonder what history will reveal about this disability legislation? Will successive governments remain true to the intentions of giving people with disability the support and care they need to live their lives …or will there be cost cutting, scrimping during tough economic times, hand balling, exclusions and excuses.   Ultimately, will people with disability and their loved ones be left better off or worse off?   In my cynical moments I wonder how Australia’s care and provision for people with disability could honestly get any worse. I get the feeling with this NDIS legislation that the ‘train has left the station’.

Maybe our job now is to take a leap of faith .  Maybe only the passing of the decades will reveal if Australia remains true to the original intentions of the legislation.  How will the High Court rule when the legislation is challenged? How will the NDIS ‘Agency’ and ‘CEO’ outlined within the legislation decide what each person needs?  Will people with disability and their loved ones truly experience a better quality of life? Who will speak for and advocate for the many, many people with disabilities who literally cannot speak for themselves?   Who will decide what is in their best interests?  I’m trusting that agencies like DDC and PWDWA and the countless others will do their best work and ensure that good outcomes come from this legislation, from this government and from the governments to come.

A complete roll out of the scheme is not scheduled until 2018.  The ‘little baby in mummy’s tummy’ (as my son says!) will be getting ready for school in 2018.  My first born will be on the cusp of high school.  Its a little while off but in this NDIS legislation lies the hope for a better future for ALL  Australians.  In it lies the hope of a global disability community…one that looks to prosperous, developed counties like Australia to give people their basic human rights and be responsible on the world stage.

I’m hopeful that things will BE better because I KNOW this nation can DO better…

And on that note…I hope you all had (or are still having) a Happy Australia Day folks!

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